[chicka37]

I graduated highschool early so when I started college I was only 17. I started talking to this guy and just told him I was 18 and I did not realize it would get so serious. It has now been a year and half and I never knew we would get this serious. It would have been easier just to tell him a long time ago, but now I feel it is too late that I let him think this for so long and all of his friends think this too which makes it even harder to tell him. What is it that I should do now?

[April Masini]

If you intend to continue this relationship, you need to bite the bullet and tell him the truth. Relationships based upon lies are living on borrowed time — sooner or later the truth comes out. Based upon the fact that you told him you were 18 a year and a half ago (when you were 17), I assume you are now 18… going on 19?

I have no idea how old this guy is, but assuming he’s within a few years of your age I suggest that perhaps you make a joke about turning 19 this year, and fess up. If he loves you, I doubt one year is going to make that much of a difference to him — unless there’s a big age gap.

Frankly, lots of women lie about their age, albeit it’s typically when they are a lot older… claiming to be younger.

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