Relationship Advice Expert April Masini

Older woman, younger man…

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    judy706
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    Hello April,

    I am a 57 years “young” woman, “seeing” a 42 year old man. He was the DJ at my nephew’s wedding in May. I thought he was attractive, but I left the wedding early and never got a chance to speak to him. The following week, I called the company supplying the music and described him and asked if he was single. His partner told me that “Bob” had mentioned noticing me too. I called him and we starting seeing each other. He gave me a key to his house, because he works 6 days a week (construction) and then some Friday and Saturday nites when he has a wedding gig. Basically, I come over his house after work, we watch videos, he falls asleep and I go home. Actually, this if fine with me, it is just that he is not a very affectionate person in general…he shows more affection to his dog, than me. I am a Libra he is a Taurus…what do ya think any advice?

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    April Masini
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    Okay, I’m afraid you’re not going to like my advice, but you asked so I’m going to tell you the truth.

    I think his behavior is telling you all you need to know…. Be that in his pursuit of you (or lack thereof), his affection towards you (or lack thereof), or his desire to do things with and for you (or lack thereof).

    You aggressively pursued this man, he did not pursue you. Now you are taking steps to continue seeing him, he is not going out of his way to see you.

    Why isn’t he? Simple. He doesn’t have to.

    What should you do? Also simple. STOP!

    Give him his key back, stop calling him, stop going over to his house — stop everything. If he is interested in a relationship with you he will come after you and he will ask you on a date. If he doesn’t, he was never interested in the first place.

    I realize this may sound harsh, but I find so many women want to make excuses for why a man doesn’t email, doesn’t call, doesn’t pursue them, etc. when the answer is very simple. He’s doesn’t do it because he’s not interested enough to do so. If he was — Trust Me. He would.

    I’m sorry that this isn’t what you wanted to hear, but I honestly believe it’s what you need to hear. You are not a pizza that gets delivered to his door-step every night.

    I would strongly recommend that you read my book, Think & Date Like A Man…

    I wish you all the best.

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