[relationshipa1]

I am 25 I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17. He is the only serious boyfriend I have ever had.we have a young child together.
We have recently decided to split up as we are both unhappy at the moment and have been for a little while.we both still love and care about eachother.I have been feeling low and unhappy for a while now n because of this I often snap at him for nothing,which is not fair and y he is unhappy.
I have big trust issues and find it extremely hard to forgive and forget.he has lied to me a few times about things and because of this I find it hard to trust him.
Due to this being my only relationship I have nothing to compare it to. Am I being selfish splitting up with him, do all couples have these problems?
I feel so confused and scared! I don’t have anyone to talk to about this so please help!

[womenknowledge]

Well I think I can give you some advice. You guys been to together for a while and what be the ultimate reason to split? Your have a child together and you said your love each still right? My advice is to sit down discuss the root cause of your unhappiness. It should be a quiet place where you both can focus on good results and not blaming. You said he lied to you before don’t you think this one of the reason of your unhappiness in this relationship? In a relationship often time when other person is not happy this can also cause friction and anger. Communication is one of the reasons why many relationship fail and you guys don’t want that.
You also talk to people your trust and respect that will give good advice. In order for relationship to work both must work together deligently. It’s a two way street my friend. You must focus on the reason why you felt in love with this guy and he should do the same as well this way you are focusing on the bigger picture in instead of the little things. Everyone has relationship problem , but it depends how you handle your problem. Focus on the solution and not just the problem because your subconscious mind will move in the direction in you want it. Break up or work together for your love and the child your have together? Hope this will help you.

[cyrix]

Did you just experience a break up? Are you wondering how to go get an ex back? Almost nearly every adult as experienced some kind of a break up, and most just work on moving on rather than looking for a way to get an ex back. But if you are over playing the victim and want to put some work in to get an ex back, then there are options for you. Everyone deals with breakup, but does break up simply mean that you cannot get back together with your ex?

The fact is, 90 percent of the time there is no reason why you cannot get an ex back after a break up, providing that you know what steps are necessary to win your ex back. The first step in learning how to get an ex back is to determine what exactly happened that caused the break up. Even though you cannot go back into the past, and you cannot change what happened, you can learn from the mistakes that were made and you can try to learn and grow from the experiences.

The break up may have occurred because of a single event, or it may have occurred from behaviors that your ex could not deal with anymore. No matter what the reason was that led to the breakup, you need to get the specifics figured out so that you can deal with the situation if it should never come up again. You can get an ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work on a long term basis, you need to figure out what went wrong in the first place.

The next step in the process is to ensure that you are not coming off as a needy person. Everyone will feel like they cannot live without their ex, but there is no point in making this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

Trying to get back at your ex, or trying to make your ex jealous is not a good way to operate. In fact, these are some of the worst things that you can possibly do, because it will show your ex that he or she should simply move on because you already have. While you do want your ex to see that you’re doing ok, you do not want it to inspire him or her to completely move on if your ideal scenario is to get back together. Let your ex see how strong and self confident you are, and they will feel inspired to get back together with you.

[April Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

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