Well, that’s a great question — so great I’ve written a book on the topic!
However, first things first. You say you’re terrible at dating… If this is true and you haven’t already done so, I strongly recommend that you pick up my book [b]Think & Date Like A Man [/b](you can get it right here on AskApril.com or in any local book store or online bookseller.) — then read it and live it! You will never feel like you are bad at dating again!
In the meantime, I will address your question about First Dates.
#1 – Everyone, and especially men, love to talk about themselves and their accomplishments. Use the first date to find out as much as you can about him… his accomplishments, his family, sports he likes, etc. Try to [b]focus in on traits and qualities that make him unique. [/b]
NOTE: Anything unique you can compliment him on will be greatly appreciated as men rarely receive compliments.
In short, ask him about him and he will think you’re the most interesting, most charming and best conversationalist he’s ever met. (There will be plenty of time for him to learn about you on the 2nd, 3rd and 4th dates.)
#2 – Never speak badly about your ex. While few will admit it this is a red flag… Most guys will assume that you’ll say bad things about them should it “not work out”. If he asks you about your ex, try to think of something nice to say. If you can’t, tell him you’ll discuss you ex later… you’re more interested in getting to know him.
#3 – No sex on the first date. Why not? Because if you have sex on the first date (or before there
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